It is February, 2016 and my son has gone through many changes since I last updated this blog. For some unknown reason out of the blue in November 2014, he came up out of the basement, said he wanted to get a job, get his license renewed, get an apartment! We were like. "Great idea!" Since that time he has had 4 jobs. The first one working in a pizza place making pizza went ok for a little while.He ended up leaving. Then he worked at a Country Club in the kitchen. He had a ride a bike quite a distance and that was such a change to acually see him exercise. He was getting fitter and seemed happy. After 2 months he quit saying he needed some place closer. This was true, but kind of a shock nonetheless. It seemed he slept for a month. We felt like maybe keeping himself stable in public and the job itself really were hard on him. He then looked for a very long time and got a Christmas seasonal job in October working in the back. This was his biggest success. He was quite reliable, proud of his work, we let him take his driver's test which he passed and he was now able to drive to work. It appeared he made some "friends" at least people to take breaks with and talk to when he was waiting for a ride. THAT is quite a milestone.
For the 2nd year in a row, he took part in Thanksgiving and Christmas. He gave my husband and I Christmas gifts of shampoo. First gifts since he got sick 7 years before! Why is this all happening? Not a clue. He is "out of practice" in social setting and tries really hard to converse. It's sad because the things most people talk about are not things he is experiencing. For example, he doesn't watch sports, go to movies, read books. He works and plays video games. It doesn't seem like much of a life. I feel alternately guilty, sad, sorrowful it will not improve, jealous of friends and their kids, really angry at family who do not even ask about him and just plain sorry for myself and him. It's really hard to have to continue to parent a 29 year old, sometimes as you would a 4 year old.
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